The Stanford marshmallow experiment was performed by psychologist Walter Mischel on small children in 1972 where he gave some marshmallow to the kids and asked them to wait for him until he comes back and then they can eat the marshmallow !

The observation he found was – some children were able to wait for him to come back and then ate it while others couldn’t wait and ate it . he sepearted both type of nature of kids and after 14years when he went back to study about these children he found the children who had the ability to control themselves for not eating marshmallow , they on the average did better in academics , in cocurrecular activities , in sports, they were regarded as more confident , self controlled however the other group of children who were unable to control themselves from not eating marshmallow had significantly lower score in academics, sports and other fields.

Now this is actually amazing ! a little bit of self restraint !

First person says ” I want to do this and I do it ” & other person says ” I want to do this but I cant do it “. Just this difference .

So here, basically what this experiment states that –

“Crucial to success in life is the ability to delay Gratification”

If I want something for that I have to make necessary sacrifices . So, may be I have to wait a little bit before I get my reward . Hence, this key insight is very Important .

A very famous Psychologist Daniel Goleman gave the concept of Emotional Intelligence or EQ Verses IQ. Here he mentions that for getting sucesss in life whether it is in a Job or Career or Family or a Relationship , EQ is more important than IQ .

People who are giving high level academic exams like IITs or PMTs in India , SATs in other countries and passing with high grades they may be having IQ more but, the variance in EQ for them is quite high as per the research by Psychologist Daniel Goleman!

Hence EQ becomes more important than IQ !

Now , in the Next blog we will see the response of Lord Krishna on Arjuna question !